When my son was a few years old, I walked into my bedroom a few minutes after I had just cleaned it to find him tearing the room apart. Instead of reacting, something compelled me to ask him what he was doing. He looked at me a bit perplexed at the fact that I couldn’t tell, then proceeded to explained that he was building a slide. It took only a moment but I saw that indeed he was building a slide
“Families are mini-cultures and they share language, attitudes, and behavior in common. These tend to be acted out in each generation and passed along.” Carolyn Foster
Every year in February my family celebrates the Baha’i Intercalary Days. The children receive gifts and give gifts. We have a grand celebration with friends and family and find a service project to engage in together. This has been one of our traditions since our children were born, and for me, since my childhood.
“Virtues are what’s good about us.” 6-year old girl (from The Virtues Guide by Linda Popov)
When my children were babies, I was a ferocious consumer of parenting books. One of the early lessons I learned from one of them was to tap into the power of words to transform the way I parent, by using the language of virtues with children. There is an entire book written on the topic, so I won’t go into too much detail, but here is a taste of it.