When my son was a few years old, I walked into my bedroom a few minutes after I had just cleaned it to find him tearing the room apart. Instead of reacting, something compelled me to ask him what he was doing. He looked at me a bit perplexed at the fact that I couldn’t tell, then proceeded to explained that he was building a slide. It took only a moment but I saw that indeed he was building a slide
It was one of those moments of revelation. From his perspective, he was being creative and from mine he was being destructive. I would never have figured that out had I not asked him.
We came to an agreement that he would complete his creative process and have fun with it, and then he was to help put the room back together. When all the fun was done, we put the room back together. What could have been a really stressful afternoon, had I insisted on having the room back to what it was immediately, turned out to be a pleasant afternoon of creativity and fun. In the end we both won.
This incident made me realize that sometimes what seems to us like a mess, is often a child engaged in a creative process of learning and discovery. It took a little detachment on my part to allow him the time he needed and be okay with the mess. Give children a chance to explain themselves–you may be pleasantly surprised at their creativity.
Please share one of your good mommy (or daddy, grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, etc.) moments